The Simple Act of Letting Go!

Sometimes the greatest act of self love we can do for ourselves is to let go of things that hurt or do not allow us to grow and become the people we were meant to be. Yes, it can be soooooo painful but we can only do and control so much. We CAN'T control the actions of others, we CAN'T force feelings, and we CAN'T prevent situations that occur because that is the way life is. We can only do our best in everything we do and try. Eventually, there comes a point though when you have to make the conscious choice to let go of something. Do it!!! You will be ok.

Fact: It doesn't come without pain because most of the time you simply aren't ready to do it. You do not realize that holding on causes wayyyy more pain than actually letting go. Your mind is saying one thing, while the heart is saying something completely different but eventually they come together and rationalize the situation. No one knows what is best for you, well except YOU!!!!!!!

When you finally let go, you find the inner peace that you need, you find new reasons smile, and you are thankful for the way things worked out. It takes time but you will get there. You release the fear, anxiety, doubt, and worry that were once associated with the situation at hand and are free from that burden. Letting go opens your mind to new ideas and fresh beginnings. Yesterday becomes the past and you begin to look forward to what today and tomorrow will bring. You accept and move on. 

What are things we can let go of? The image below explains it pretty well!!!

• Clutter!!! Remove all the things you do not need!!! The idea of saving everything is so cute until you realize how much crap you have saved in the past 11 years. Will the Princess Beasts (my three daughters) one day appreciate the programs from the Disney Cruise or Disney on Ice? Highly unlikely!!!!
• LET GO of saying YES to everything!! This causes panic, a fight with time, and you are overwhelming yourself with a busy schedule. It is ok to say "NO!!!" That rushed feeling caused me great anxiety in the past. I was planning my life in hour time slots. Now I am able to say "no" and it feels great!
• The Picture Perfect Life???? Guess what? No one has it! The perfect body? does not exist! Embrace your chaos and appreciate your messy little life! 
• People Pleasing? Adios!!! The only person I am responsible for making happy is MYSELF!
• Grudges!!! This is a BIGGIE!! I am a work in progress on this. One of my flaws is that I can actually hold a grudge for a pretty long time. Petty......I know..... but it is who I am. Now it is actually pretty rare because I am a pretty passive person but when it happens WATCH OUT!! However in attempting to let stuff go, I decided to no longer sweat other people's stupidity. I will not get upset about stuff that it out of my control. Frowning causes wrinkles and I am way too fabulous for that. Now..... do not go and get it twisted! If you did me BIG TIME wrong I will not pretend nothing ever happened and be cool with you. I do not wanna be your friend, I do not wanna talk to you, I do not want to say "hi", I probably won't acknowledge your presence, I don't want anything to do with you! I have these great things called memory and dignity. That is not the way I roll. Sorry if that is the kind of people you are used to. Maybe other people work like that but I don't so stay in your lane. If you don't add to my life you gotta go! Adios Bitchachos!!!
• Let go of disrespecting yourself. Love yourself and demand the treatment you deserve! You are not an option! You are a priority! You are not a snack! You are the whole 5 course meal! 
• Let go of self sabotaging!! This will hold you back in all aspects of life. Dream big! Build yourself up! You are capable of doing anything you set your mind to! Get it!!!!!!!
• Let go of the negatives, surround yourself with positives. Be part of a squad or tribe that wants to see you grow! Cheer your friends on! Build up and never tear each other down. Life isn't a race or a competition. Do not destroy those that have been there for you. I want to see everyone in my life win!

The only thing that you should never let go of is yourself!! You are all you have! Love yourself! Tell yourself how beautiful you are, how proud you are of what you have accomplished, how happy you are with your journey and with how far you've come. Never lose sight of yourself! Never stop fighting for yourself. When you are the best you, you offer the best to those around you. 

Remember, it is ok to let go! Not everything is worth holding on to!